And, since most men my age are divorced, too, he'd most likely need me to do the same.
And that's the big post-divorce dating shocker: Looking for love when you have kids is a package deal, and it's often as tough as trying to open the PVC clamshell packaging just about everything comes in nowadays.
Not surprisingly, it isn't much easier for the kids.
Dating, shacking up and remarriage has a huge impact on children, according to psychologist Constance Ahrons, author of The courtship phase isn't one kids generally see -- they wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened sometime in their parents' past.
In fact more single parents are dating than their kid-free peers, according to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of and a advisor.